This is an old post from my Notes on Facebook. I know there are many who disagree with me, but obviously there are those who are like-minded. Anyway I wanted to share it here, because I personally think it's timely and relevant.
Just an observation
One of the biggest competitions (besides "Who's the Most Quirky" and "Who Has the Most Money") on FB these days seems to be Who Has the Most Spoiled, Over-indulged Children. Somewhere along the way, apparently this has become something to be proud of and brag about. "My little DIVA won't eat this or wear that or go here or there or do this or that." WON'T? Or "Little 6-year-old Susie just HAD to have this $400 phone." WHAT? Parents used to run the family and realized their job was to be the parent, not the best friend of their children. What happened? smh
Looky here! http://mochadad.com/2009/03/10-signs-your-children-are-brats/
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Gerald R Carey, Brenda Lynn Obert, Janilyn Moore Hunt and 30 others like this.
Erin Porterfield Guest It's an entire culture. The stores sell tshirts that say, "I'm a diva" or "Grandma spoils me." The ADULTS buy these things for the kids and think it's cute, then wonder where they went wrong when the kid is a brat. It's called self-fulfilling prophecy. Children tend to live up to our expectations of them and (gasp!) believe what they're told. Great post.
July 29, 2014 at 11:02am · Unlike · 6
Debra Nolen It won't be so cute when they're twenty-something and still at home because no one else wants to live with their spoiled, self-centered selves.
July 29, 2014 at 11:10am · Unlike · 6
Linda Pineda Porterfield This from a site I ran across called Extreme Parenting made me laugh:
Parent to Melt Down Kid in the grocery store: “Honey, you can’t have both, you have to make a choice. Do you want the (sugar laden, cavity causing, hyper-activity trigger) cereal (made with loads of genetically modified stuff) or do you want the (excessively salty) chips (full of saturated fatty acids that will be sure to make you a candidate for cardiovascular diseases in the future) ?”
Devil spawn gets up glares at the parent and knocks down everything on the bottom two shelves. Because it couldn’t reach any higher than that. Not effective parenting.
I say, yes give the child choices. In fact I would give the child three choices.
“I can either whoop your ass: 1 here, 2 at home or 3 you can shut up.”
July 29, 2014 at 11:16am · Like · 12
Heather Leigh Porterfield LMAO Mama! You know I completely agree on all points!
July 29, 2014 at 11:23am · Like
Heather Leigh Porterfield And I agree that this seems to have become a phenomenon. What is really strange to me is the almost down-trodden look the parent has later, followed by a silly grin: 'See how she treats me?' You know she runs the show; she's the boss!' (all laugh as if it were funny.) I never laugh. Instead, I pray that the child doesn't grow up to walk into a Luby's a machine gun everyone because they can't get the pie they wanted.
July 29, 2014 at 11:26am · 4
Erin Porterfield Guest Lmao, Mom! My kids get those three options ALL the time!
July 29, 2014 at 11:31am · 2
Heather Leigh Porterfield Yep yep, E! lol!
July 29, 2014 at 11:39am · Like · 1
Karen Pineda Mitchell I couldn`t have said it better Linda. Lord help me if I had ever said no or talked back to my parents! I knew my limits and there were consequences if I didn`t abide by them. Alot of parents these days just let them have their way because it is easier. Lazy parenting is what it is and unfortunately they are doing way more harm then good.
July 29, 2014 at 11:54am · Like · 2
Linda Pineda Porterfield You nailed it, Karen. Lazy parenting = no consequences = rotten child = rotten adult. The downward spiral in our society is sad and scary.
July 29, 2014 at 12:51pm · Like · 1
Linda Poteet I agree.
July 29, 2014 at 1:35pm · 2
Anita Pineda McClary lol,Linda Pineda Porterfield!
July 29, 2014 at 6:49pm · 1
Rick Pineda We were recently at a retirement party for one of our former Pastors and as people were up front sharing their hearts about how this man had affected their lives, their children's lives etc, there was a child in the back of the room running amuck, screaming and pretty much ruining the moment for this man. The parents would occasionally pick her up and put their hand over her mouth. I guarantee one trip to the bathroom and a good swatting would have resolved the problem. But hey that's hard.
July 29, 2014 at 8:41pm · Like · 2
Linda Pineda Porterfield At the very least, if you can't or won't control your child, have enough concern for others to remove them from the area where it's distracting or ruining the occasion for others. I've had the same happen while I'm trying to video an event with a screaming child nearby whose parents are too busy trying to bargain with the child or bribe him with treats (a reward for bad behavior?) to notice or care that others are being affected . frown emoticon
Just an observation
One of the biggest competitions (besides "Who's the Most Quirky" and "Who Has the Most Money") on FB these days seems to be Who Has the Most Spoiled, Over-indulged Children. Somewhere along the way, apparently this has become something to be proud of and brag about. "My little DIVA won't eat this or wear that or go here or there or do this or that." WON'T? Or "Little 6-year-old Susie just HAD to have this $400 phone." WHAT? Parents used to run the family and realized their job was to be the parent, not the best friend of their children. What happened? smh
Looky here! http://mochadad.com/2009/03/10-signs-your-children-are-brats/
33 Likes
14 Comments
Gerald R Carey, Brenda Lynn Obert, Janilyn Moore Hunt and 30 others like this.
Erin Porterfield Guest It's an entire culture. The stores sell tshirts that say, "I'm a diva" or "Grandma spoils me." The ADULTS buy these things for the kids and think it's cute, then wonder where they went wrong when the kid is a brat. It's called self-fulfilling prophecy. Children tend to live up to our expectations of them and (gasp!) believe what they're told. Great post.
July 29, 2014 at 11:02am · Unlike · 6
Debra Nolen It won't be so cute when they're twenty-something and still at home because no one else wants to live with their spoiled, self-centered selves.
July 29, 2014 at 11:10am · Unlike · 6
Linda Pineda Porterfield This from a site I ran across called Extreme Parenting made me laugh:
Parent to Melt Down Kid in the grocery store: “Honey, you can’t have both, you have to make a choice. Do you want the (sugar laden, cavity causing, hyper-activity trigger) cereal (made with loads of genetically modified stuff) or do you want the (excessively salty) chips (full of saturated fatty acids that will be sure to make you a candidate for cardiovascular diseases in the future) ?”
Devil spawn gets up glares at the parent and knocks down everything on the bottom two shelves. Because it couldn’t reach any higher than that. Not effective parenting.
I say, yes give the child choices. In fact I would give the child three choices.
“I can either whoop your ass: 1 here, 2 at home or 3 you can shut up.”
July 29, 2014 at 11:16am · Like · 12
Heather Leigh Porterfield LMAO Mama! You know I completely agree on all points!
July 29, 2014 at 11:23am · Like
Heather Leigh Porterfield And I agree that this seems to have become a phenomenon. What is really strange to me is the almost down-trodden look the parent has later, followed by a silly grin: 'See how she treats me?' You know she runs the show; she's the boss!' (all laugh as if it were funny.) I never laugh. Instead, I pray that the child doesn't grow up to walk into a Luby's a machine gun everyone because they can't get the pie they wanted.
July 29, 2014 at 11:26am · 4
Erin Porterfield Guest Lmao, Mom! My kids get those three options ALL the time!
July 29, 2014 at 11:31am · 2
Heather Leigh Porterfield Yep yep, E! lol!
July 29, 2014 at 11:39am · Like · 1
Karen Pineda Mitchell I couldn`t have said it better Linda. Lord help me if I had ever said no or talked back to my parents! I knew my limits and there were consequences if I didn`t abide by them. Alot of parents these days just let them have their way because it is easier. Lazy parenting is what it is and unfortunately they are doing way more harm then good.
July 29, 2014 at 11:54am · Like · 2
Linda Pineda Porterfield You nailed it, Karen. Lazy parenting = no consequences = rotten child = rotten adult. The downward spiral in our society is sad and scary.
July 29, 2014 at 12:51pm · Like · 1
Linda Poteet I agree.
July 29, 2014 at 1:35pm · 2
Anita Pineda McClary lol,Linda Pineda Porterfield!
July 29, 2014 at 6:49pm · 1
Rick Pineda We were recently at a retirement party for one of our former Pastors and as people were up front sharing their hearts about how this man had affected their lives, their children's lives etc, there was a child in the back of the room running amuck, screaming and pretty much ruining the moment for this man. The parents would occasionally pick her up and put their hand over her mouth. I guarantee one trip to the bathroom and a good swatting would have resolved the problem. But hey that's hard.
July 29, 2014 at 8:41pm · Like · 2
Linda Pineda Porterfield At the very least, if you can't or won't control your child, have enough concern for others to remove them from the area where it's distracting or ruining the occasion for others. I've had the same happen while I'm trying to video an event with a screaming child nearby whose parents are too busy trying to bargain with the child or bribe him with treats (a reward for bad behavior?) to notice or care that others are being affected . frown emoticon
July 29, 2014 at 8:50pm ·
Linda Pineda Porterfield I just reread this post from last year, and it reminded me of a post I recently saw on FB, lamenting the fact that "children are being punished for just being human." First of all, discipline doesn't equal punishment. Children need limits and rules and they need to understand that there are CONSEQUENCES for going beyond those limits or breaking the rules. Those consequences are called discipline. If that doesn't bring about the desired results after a few times, THEN comes the punishment, because that's what it will be like when they grow up. All this is our responsibility as parents to prepare our children for the real world and mold them into the kind of responsible, productive adults whom others would want to emulate. If you think it's okay to allow your children to do whatever (be disruptive and disrespectful to others) in the name of "just being human," I hope that, against the odds, they don't become "that kid" that other parents don't want their kids to play with or the one who causes adults to cringe when they know they're going to be present at a gathering. (You know the ones I'm talking about.) I hope they grow up to be someone you can be proud to call your son/daughter. JMHO
June 16, 2015 11:30am
Following is the post I'm referring to:
Linda Pineda Porterfield I just reread this post from last year, and it reminded me of a post I recently saw on FB, lamenting the fact that "children are being punished for just being human." First of all, discipline doesn't equal punishment. Children need limits and rules and they need to understand that there are CONSEQUENCES for going beyond those limits or breaking the rules. Those consequences are called discipline. If that doesn't bring about the desired results after a few times, THEN comes the punishment, because that's what it will be like when they grow up. All this is our responsibility as parents to prepare our children for the real world and mold them into the kind of responsible, productive adults whom others would want to emulate. If you think it's okay to allow your children to do whatever (be disruptive and disrespectful to others) in the name of "just being human," I hope that, against the odds, they don't become "that kid" that other parents don't want their kids to play with or the one who causes adults to cringe when they know they're going to be present at a gathering. (You know the ones I'm talking about.) I hope they grow up to be someone you can be proud to call your son/daughter. JMHO
June 16, 2015 11:30am
Following is the post I'm referring to:
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